There’s no better or easier way to spice things up in the bedroom than by trying a new sex position – or perfecting an old favorite. If getting better at sex positions has been on your to-do list, read below to find out how to get started.
Why Trying New Positions Is Important
Trying new sex positions is good for more than adding nuance to your sex life. It can become imperative as you age and as your body changes to have new sexual tools in your toolbox so that if one position becomes uncomfortable or impossible, you can easily switch to another. Some people’s penises may curve or become less firm, and others’ vaginas may be dryer or experience pain during sex. You or your partner may find different positions more pleasurable or less pleasurable as you grow and change together, so it’s essential to be flexible—figuratively, and perhaps literally.
New positions don’t just heighten pleasure for your body—they can also heighten arousal for your mind. When you explore sex positions, you can also explore a new part of your personality. For instance, if you want to be more dominant or assertive in your relationship, you might want to try a position where you’re on top or your partner is on their knees.
Upgrading the Basics
Even missionary can be exciting again with a few expert tweaks. Adding a pillow underneath the hips of the partner being penetrated can change the angle so that it’s pleasurable for both parties. A thick, dense cushion will add more support as thinner pillows won’t be able to hold their shape as well.
Next, if you’re on the top, think about giving your partner a little show. Let them see which parts you like to have touched. And if you’re on the bottom, you don’t get to tune out! Yes, you can enjoy the view but don’t forget to grind against your partner and use your hands to turn the heat up on your partner.
Another idea is for the partner being penetrated to close their legs. Typically, when you’re penetrated, your legs are spread to make it easier for the penetrating partner to enter you. But closing your legs can amp up the sensations and give a cozy, tighter feeling for both of you.
Trying More Advanced Maneuvers
Sometimes, switching it up completely is exactly what your relationship needs. If an extra dose of intimacy sounds enticing, try facing each other while sitting. The penetrating partner will sit with their legs crossed on a cushion on the floor. The penetrated partner will sit on top of them, wrapping their legs around their partner. This position brings you close enough to spend time kissing, running your fingers through each other’s hair, or whispering in your partner’s ear. This position can make you feel extra connected. Bonus points for syncing up your breathing!
If you’re ready for scorching hot sex, try face-sitting. This position gives your partner an up-close-and-personal view and access to use their mouth everywhere. Cunnilingus and analingus are easy in this position, and the dominant feeling of sitting on someone’s face can feel very empowering and potentially orgasmic.
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Expert Tips on Sex Positions
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Bio: Dr. Nazanin Moali is a clinical psychologist and sex therapist in the Los Angeles area. She works with various individuals to understand and improve their sexuality. Dr. Moali conducts personal consultation sessions in her Torrance and Hermosa Beach offices, or via a secure, online video-counseling platform. Click here to take the sex quiz for women.