Many people wonder if everyone with a vulva can orgasm multiple times. There’s no clear answer, but it’s worth exploring because you might be one of the lucky ones who can! Below are some tips on having multiple orgasms.
Know Which Type of Multiple Orgasm You Want to Have
You can have multiple orgasms in many ways. You may want repeated clitoral orgasms, one right after the other, without a recovery period. Or, you may want to have many different orgasms in a row, from G spot to clitoral to breast stimulation. You could also try having multiple blended orgasms, where you have two kinds of orgasms at once, typically G spot and clitoral. Different types of orgasms will require different stimulation to reach, so knowing which sounds the most appealing to you is the best place to start.
Start With Self-Exploration
The best way to start is by exploring yourself. Don’t focus on orgasms as much as everything that leads up to them. What types of touch turn you on, and which types turn you off? This information is essential so that you can learn what steps on the gas pedal and what puts the brakes on your arousal. Read about the different erogenous zones and make a pleasure map of your body, where you find each area that you like to have touched.
Next, consider things outside the realm of touch that turn you on. Maybe you enjoy watching porn, or perhaps you prefer to read erotica. Incorporate these elements when you’re ready to have multiple orgasms.
Keep tabs on things that turn you off, too. Having multiple orgasms means eliminating as many elements as possible that take away from your arousal, too. For some people, distractions, like your phone ringing, can take you out of the moment. For others, it may be as simple as tidying the bedroom so you feel more clear-headed. Still, others respond worse to specific types of touch. Knowing these can help prevent you from making some of the biggest mistakes people make in the bedroom. For more information on this, watch my video:
Get Into the Right Mental State
If you feel stressed out, exhausted, or not emotionally safe, it will be difficult to have multiple orgasms—or any, for that matter. You want to be completely relaxed, so it’s often best to practice having multiple orgasms by yourself. That can remove the pressure of having a partner around and wanting to please them and not hurt their feelings.
Before you start, take some calming deep breaths so you feel centered. Then, do something that turns you on that you identified from the tip above, whether that’s wearing lingerie, listening to a sexy podcast, or watching porn. Wait until you are turned on before starting, and you’re less likely to get frustrated.
Avoid Overstimulation
Clitorises are notoriously sensitive and can become overstimulated after an orgasm, and any touch at all will be painful. Fortunately, there are several ways to avoid overstimulation. You could begin stimulating your G spot next so that nothing touches your clit. The next option is to get to know your refractory period or the recovery time your clit needs before being stimulated again. Give yourself a few seconds or minutes to recuperate after your orgasm. Try gently and cautiously every 30 seconds or so until you know when you can safely restart stimulating again without pain.
Work With a Professional
If you want more tips on getting the most out of your sex life, working with a sex therapist can help you get through any mental obstacles you’re experiencing. Contact me for a free consultation today!
Bio: Dr. Nazanin Moali is a clinical psychologist and sex therapist in the Los Angeles area. She works with various individuals to understand and improve their sexuality. Dr. Moali conducts personal consultation sessions in her Torrance and Hermosa Beach offices, or via a secure, online video-counseling platform. Click here to take the sex quiz for women.