Orgies are a common fantasy, but can be much more complicated than people realize. Find out how to engage in group sex safely with a long-term partner.
Emotional Safety During Group Sex
Orgies aren’t just about sex—there’s a significant emotional component. You may find it to be transformative, healing, or intellectually satisfying. Orgies can teach you a great deal about human connection. Often, your background information on group sex comes from pornography. But seeing first-hand how people couple up and get intimate can be incredibly illuminating.
An orgy can also be a place of heartbreak, and this most frequently happens to couples who don’t have firm boundaries or a solid foundation of trust. If you find it difficult to talk about sex or natural feelings of jealousy with your partner, you probably aren’t ready for an orgy yet. You both should be confident that your partner won’t break the agreement in the heat of the moment. Disconnection occurs most of the time when partners don’t have a plan before it starts. This YouTube video has must-see tips that will nip disconnection in the bud:
What to Know Before You Go
Starting slow is the key to most hot sex, and it’s the same for orgies. Consider observing the first time you attend, or limiting your contact with others to flirtation, hand-holding, or sexual conversation. If those activities felt comfortable and you’re ready for more freedom, kissing someone else may be the next step. However, don’t renegotiate boundaries in the heat of the moment or you may inadvertently pressure your partner.
Assuming you’re on the same page is not an option. There are too many scenarios where you could do something that triggers long-term jealousy, hurt, and distrust for your partner, or worse, ends your relationship. If you attend an orgy assuming you know what your partner wants, you’re risking everything. Don’t fall into the trap of presuming it will work out without clear communication.
When you discuss boundaries, include topics like how you’ll practice safer sex. Birth control, barriers, and levels of sobriety are subjects that should be on the table. Having a meetup or check-in time can also be helpful, allowing you and your partner to take a moment to reconnect during all the fun.
Furthermore, specify what you would like to happen at the orgy. If you think it might be hot to watch your partner kiss someone else, let them know. Understanding your partner’s interest and motivation for attending or hosting an orgy can deepen your understanding of each other. It’s beneficial to label the emotions you’d like to experience outside of erotic intensity, like adventure, novelty, or the thrill of the unexpected. Maybe you want someone to worship you, or you want someone to embrace your bisexuality in a way your partner does not or cannot. These are valid desires and can help strengthen your intimacy.
Finding an Orgy
If you don’t want to host a party yourself, the next best thing is to find one that you can attend. There are a lot of misconceptions around sex parties. For one, it’s not just non-monogamous people who attend. Couples may host an orgy to observe or dip a toe into opening their relationship before they move forward. Keeping an open mind is key, because you may not know the status of everyone’s relationship who is attending. Orgies may have swingers, polyamorous folks, and BDSM people playing with power dynamics.
What to Keep in Mind During the Orgy
Notice throughout the group sex if anything makes you feel ungrounded. Boundaries can arise spontaneously, and it’s a good idea to investigate the way certain activities or people make you feel. Consent isn’t black and white, and there is a lot of room for “maybe” when you’re feeling secure in your relationship.
Staying In Tune With Your Partner
Orgies aren’t bandages, and they can’t save ailing relationships. Healing first is always the best option. And if you decide to go forward, find a way to make your partner feel special throughout. Show them that they are still your chosen one, and you can increase the emotional safety they feel.
When you experiment sexually, most people find that they can laser in on their core sexual interests. It helps you narrow down what you like and what you don’t. Rather than being turned on by anything sexual, orgies may help you refine your interests and get more of what you want with your partner during everyday sex.
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