Too many people miss out on the magic of prostate pleasure. Let’s talk about prostate milking, orgasm, and massage so you can stop wondering and start exploring.
Prostate Milking 101
Is prostate pleasure the same as prostate milking? Well, not exactly. Prostate milking has a goal in mind: drawing out liquid via stimulation. Prostate pleasure has no goal. But the path to either is the same: prostate massage. So, prostate milking is a massage with a goal in mind. If you feel prone to sexual pressure or disappointment, it may be best to start without a goal at all. Or, maybe the only goals are exploration and pleasure. The more you try to force yourself to have an orgasm, the more elusive or unattainable it can seem.
An important tip to know before getting started is that many men will be so overwhelmed by prostate pleasure that they will not have an erection. Whether or not your partner is hard while you give them a prostate massage is not a good gauge of how much they’re enjoying the experience. If you’re worried it doesn’t feel good, ask them.
Who Prostate Milking Is For
Many people incorrectly jump to the conclusion that prostate milking is for gay men only. But the truth is that prostate pleasure will benefit anyone with a prostate. The fear of prostate pleasure is rooted in homophobia and misogyny, and this fear reduces the amount of pleasure people with prostates can feel, in addition to being outdated. Opening yourself to new modes of pleasure is healthy for both body and mind. And what your parents said was correct: you’ll never know unless you try.
Prostate milking can also safeguard your pleasure. As people with penises age, the prospect of developing erectile dysfunction increases. But prostate pleasure gives you a backup option for pleasure and connection.
Erectile dysfunction is prevalent, and many people have bought into myths surrounding it. To find out if you’re one of them, check out my YouTube video:
In a nutshell, prostate milking is for anyone who wants to try it. And if that’s you, you might just have your most powerful orgasm yet!
Risks to Manage
No sexual activity is risk-free, so it’s essential to be risk-aware. One risk of prostate exploration is tearing if you or your partner are too vigorous. To prevent this, having short nails is a good idea. If that’s not an option, you may want to wear gloves with padding in the tips. Washing your hands before is also smart.
Engaging in prostate milking sober is another good idea. Being sober will help you stay in tune with your body throughout the encounter, and you’ll learn which spots are pleasurable and which are not. Pain shouldn’t be a part of prostate milking, but the capacity to feel pain is a vital part of keeping yourself safe during sex.
Prostate milking won’t happen for everyone. But finding out if it is a path to orgasm for you is pleasurable, exciting, and can be an intimate and bonding part of your sex life.
Getting Started
Many people don’t know where their prostate is, which creates an immediate barrier to milking. There’s no map and everybody is different, so some trial and error is in order. Usually, it’s approximately inches inside the anus. Finding it is tricky, but you’ll know it when you get there.
Watching porn to learn how to stimulate the prostate is not always effective. Porn makes for fun entertainment, but it can be downright misleading as a learning tool. You will need lots of lube and to go slower than most anything you see on PornHub.
Kick the pleasure off by stimulating your perineum, which is an excellent first step since it’s much easier to locate your prostate when you’re turned on. If you’re ready to venture further inside, start with a well-lubed finger or very small anal toy. Try different types of stimulation, as gentle pressure will be enough for some, while vigorous stroking may be the key for others. If you’ve fingered a vulva before, try using the same technique here. You may learn what you like, and, bonus, you may be a better fingerer after the fact, too!
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Bio: Dr. Nazanin Moali is a clinical psychologist and sex therapist in the Los Angeles area. She works with various individuals to understand and improve their sexuality. Dr. Moali conducts personal consultation sessions in her Torrance and Hermosa Beach offices, or via a secure, online video-counseling platform. Click here to take the sex quiz for women.
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