Welcome to episode 149 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Tammy Nelson to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about sexual boredom, contributing factors as to why people cheat, and the concept of new monogamy.
Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. is a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist as well as a Relationship Therapist and author of several books for couples including Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, When You’re the One Who Cheated, and the upcoming Integrative Sex and Couples Therapy due out in March.
She is the Director and Founder of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute in Washington DC., a training Institute, and Think Tank focused on obtaining and creating sustainable relationships. She is also an expert consultant for Ashley Madison, an online dating site for married people. She has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Business Insider, Time Magazine, and is the host of a popular podcast, The Trouble with Sex.
In This Episode You Will Hear:
- The common mistakes people make to become sexually bored
- How sexual boredom can be akin to eating the same food every day
- Why being too comfortable in a relationship can cause sexual boredom
- Contributing factors as to why people cheat
- How desire can increase for a partner when they show interest in someone else
- Increasing the quantity and quality of sex in a long-term relationship
- Rebuilding sexual intimacy
- How changes in personality and identity can lead to cheating
- Looking at the concept of new monogamy
- What’s the difference between new monogamy and old monogamy?
- Managing your unrealistic expectations
- The role that technology plays in these changes
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Email Tammy through her website and she will send you “37 Questions for your New Monogamy Agreement” – a handout to create a relationship discussion that can help you start your new vision for the future of your new monogamy.
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