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Welcome to episode 255 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Zachary Zane to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Zachary’s journey of coming out as bisexual, the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality and recommendations on where to start dating if you’re just starting to experiment with bisexuality. 

 

Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. 

  

He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice that isn’t just “communicate with your partner,” because let’s be real, we all know that already. 

  

He also has a monthly column at Queer Majority called “Zach and the City,” which explores romance and sexuality through Zane’s fabulous life. Set against the backdrop of New York City, Zane uses his personal experiences as a young and adventurous queer socialite to unpack the current state of cosmopolitan sex, love, and dating.  

  

He currently writes for The Washington Post, Rolling Stone, and Prevention. He was formerly a digital associate editor at OUT Magazine and a contributing editor at Pride.com, Plus Magazine, and The Advocate Magazine. He’s been featured in numerous other publications as well, including Playboy, NBC, SELF, Allure, Dazed, AskMen, Slate, Into, Them, Cosmopolitan, Hornet, NewNowNext, LGBTQ Nation, MerryJane, and Bustle. 

  

As a leading bisexual activist, Zane has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months.  

  

He attended the “Bisexual White House Briefing” at the White House (under Obama), and has been featured as an expert on a number of podcasts including Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast.” 

  

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

  • Looking at Zachary’s journey of coming out as bisexual  
  • Understanding that being bisexual is not just a steppingstone to being gay 
  • How many straight people experiment with bisexuality but are ashamed to talk about it  
  • The misconceptions that exist around bisexual men  
  • How the gay community isn’t always welcoming to bisexual men  
  • Looking at the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality 
  • The ways in which coming out as bisexual can affect a person’s self-image 
  • Recommendations on where to start dating if you’re just starting to experiment with bisexuality  
  • The role that monogamy and non-monogamy plays in bisexual relationships  
  • Looking at the development of the bisexual community in cities like New York and Los Angeles   

 

Find Zachary Zane Online 

 

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Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey – http://petebailey.net/audio